You Never Can Tell

I have a number of friends with romantic difficulties at one of the rare times I'm not overly concerned about that area of my life.

Peter Wolf expressed the opinion (later re-popularized by Adam Sandler) that "Love Stinks."

What stinks about love is that you never can tell. You don't know instantly if you've met "THE ONE." You only learn with effort if a person is worth the effort. You only learn if the risk is worth it by actually taking the risk. I've had a LOT of failed relationships. Much more than my share. I could claim to have wasted most of the last decade on relationships that didn't pan out.

On the other hand, you really DON'T know instantly if you've met the one. Something might not initially seem worthwhile, but will prove itself worth the effort. What keeps me rolling when I should have given up on love YEARS ago is the knowledge that someone is worth that effort. Not only is someone out there worth that effort... someone is out there that is worth all the effort I've wasted on other women.

The whole thing is a crap-shoot... which is frustrating to many, but fascinating as well.

Craig Ferguson, speaking about something entirely unrelated, may have said it best: "Between safety and adventure, I choose adventure. Every time."

What stinks about love is that you never can tell. It's also what makes it great.