Blog posts have gotten harder to write because everything I post starts another round of drama. I already lost one friend to this blog, and last week I found a section of one of my posts taken out of context to make me out to be a jerk.
I've been debating whether or not to respond. I had decided to, then I decided not to. It's a real dilemma. There is a part of me that thinks if they want to take things so personally and turn everything into a visceral, vitriolic battle, then to hell with them. But there's another part of me that wants to keep things peaceful and civil.
There's an old bit of wisdom that says "to thine own self be true." There's another that says "blessed are the peace-makers." Those things seem to be in direct contrast to each other.
That being said... a few clarifying comments. When a comment in this blog is labeled "This comment has been deleted by the author" that means the comment was deleted by the author of the COMMENT, not the author of the blog. I have not yet deleted anyone's comments other than my own. Even the absolutely idiotic ones. I'm not one of those people who tries to sanitize everything to put myself in the best light, and in SOME instances, I've decided it's best just to leave the comments up because it makes the author of the comment look like an idiot, when they're trying to make me look that way. If you want to write your own punishment, I'll be more than glad to leave it for others to see.
In regards to the "Open Letter:"
Sarcasm:
noun
[mass noun]- the use of irony to mock or convey contempt:she didn't like the note of sarcasm in his voice
(courtesy of the Oxford English Dictionary)
In regards to the "Battle of the Sexes:"
I have made my point abundantly clear numerous times within the post and the comments directly following the post. If you still wish to twist and misconstrue it, it's a matter of willful ignorance at that point.
Either way, I don't have time for the drama. I have too many LEGITIMATELY dramatic things going on in my life. I don't need any more created for me. If anyone wants to be offended by this, be my guest. Feel free to make your point below... or on your own blog... or wherever else you wish. But, frankly, I'm done caring. This is a place for me to write about things that matter to me, which is what I'm going to continue to do. I'm done with the debates and the drama. Drama queens are welcome to try the Lady MacBeth act elsewhere. I'm not taking auditions.
I repent but do not recant. -- Yes I took offense to what I found to be a very careless and half told anecdote about me, if I have twisted or misconstrued your comments then yes that would be on me but even you had to admit you misspoke in regards to the situation. You needn’t worry about me miss reading any thing again as in the future I will avoid reading altogether. I would hate to cause you any upset. As for my comments delete them leave them that’s all up to you, I have said nothing to be concerned about, regret, or worry I have made a fool of myself.
ReplyDeleteWhat I find myself repentant about is my comment on your Open Letter, not because of the content of my comment or because I found your post extremely vitriolic even if you meant it to be sarcastic. Perhaps your brand of sarcasm doesn’t always translate through written word. What I am repentant about is the fact that comment was designed to get a reaction, I was bored in class, your blog and the statute I quoted were running around in my head so I wrote it to see what you would say. I try to behave better than that but I am only human.
So I am freely and publicly admitting that it wasn’t very nice me to write a comment to get rise out of and it probably illustrates just how human and flawed I am that it did get a rise out of you. So I am sorry and now I am off to try out for the role of Lady Macbeth’s attorney…equally capable of a dramatic turn but less crazy. :)
No need to repent or recant. This is America, you're free to write whatever you wish, and I'm free to respond to it however I deem appropriate. You're not causing me any pain, and only minor frustration.
ReplyDeleteThis wasn't entirely personal, you're one of three or four who was being addressed here, though since you found it fit to respond, I'll reply.
Firstly, I said, openly that "I misspoke." It's there, you can read it again. It's written out in black and white. And I really find it in poor taste for you to accuse me of half-telling a tale when that was the whole point of the aforementioned post on your blog.
Secondly, it is true that sarcasm doesn't come across the same in the written word, out of thirty comments on the blog, on FB, and in e-mail regarding the blog, you're the only one who didn't recognize it as sarcasm.
Thirdly, Lady MacBeth's attorney... very witty.
Hmm You might need to check your blog setting my comment isn't showing...or maybe it is something with my settings.
ReplyDeleteFor some reason, it triggered the spam filter. I was wondering where it went, too.
ReplyDeleteBTW, I didn't address it, but I appreciate the apology. I was tempted to write something in response to the comment and your blog, but what I would have written at the time wouldn't have been the nicest thing I could say, and I wanted to sleep on it and address the issue in a more civil tone.
ReplyDeleteNot sure this was entirely civil, but it was an improvement over my frustration at the time, and as I said, there were two or three people being addressed here.
Thanks again for the response and apology.
Feel free to comment on my blogs if you like. You have a right to your feelings as I have to mine, the nice thing about your own feelings is that nobody but you can say if they are right or wrong.
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